The Do’s And Don’ts of Social Networking (Or, How To Make All The Blogging Friends!)

Networking is hard sometimes.

I mean, what do you do? What do you say? When do you do it? How much should you do? It’s a lot of work, especially since networking can possibly be what makes or breaks your blog. So, of course, I decided to list out some tips that I thought might help some people, since you guys seem to really like them!

Do Link Up

Most memes out there are hosted by a blogger or multiple bloggers, and have a place where you can leave links on meme days! It’s a good idea to link up, and might get some traction to your own blog if the host or any other participators decide to click around, not to mention that memes are supposed to be social, so be sociable!

Don’t Just Post And Expect Something

I think this goes for all content when you’re first starting out. Though it’d be nice, if it’s your first week blogging, don’t expect there to be a rush of notifications when you post your first blog post. A majority of the time, no one knows who you are, so it’s vital to reach out to others so people in the community know that you exist and might visit your blog!

Do Leave Thoughtful Comments

I’ve seen lots of people say they don’t like comments on memes where it’s clear the blogger just wants them to visit their post, so avoid it at all costs! Relate to the post in some way, talk about a story that pertains to one of the books they chose, talk about the theme, talk about the books you chose, etc. There are lots of ways to leave a genuine comment!

Don’t Just Leave A Link

When I say this, I’m mainly talking about leaving a link and not looking at anyone else’s posts. I admit, I do this often because TIME, but I am trying to attempt to go around visiting a couple people’s links just to branch out and find more blogs to read! It’s always a good thing!

Do Leave Less Popular Posts There

I think the best course of action to take when it comes to link-ups is leaving the link of a post that didn’t do so hot when you first published it. Obviously, it’s different standards for everyone, but it’s best to link the post you want to get the most traffic from! If you don’t feel like there’s any blog post that was more unpopular or the stats for all your posts are equal, just link to the post you’re the most proud of and show it off!

Don’t Ignore Other People’s Posts

Yes, it’s a good idea to do link-ups, but I’d recommend not just pasting your link and leaving but at least taking an effort to read a couple of links that other people read just to spread the love and be a part of the community! Also, said blogger will probably pay back the favor. The same thing applies both to memes and link-ups for sure!

Do Acknowledge The Host

Whether it’s thanking them or giving them a follow or leaving a comment on the post or one of their posts, just acknowledge the host of the link-up! They’re taking the time to allow bloggers to link up their stuff and get some traction, so it’s a good idea to repay them in some way for being so kind!

Don’t Give Up If It’s Not Working Out

I’m an impatient person and one that tends to want results right away, so I totally understand it if you attempt something, and when it’s not paying off, you just want to give up. I advise that you don’t! Blogging in general is a time-draining process that requires hard work and diligence, and, sometimes, it takes a long while to see results that make you happy, and that’s something that should always be kept in mind!

Do Reply To Comments

A deal-breaker for pretty much every blogger out there is someone who doesn’t reply to their comments! It just seems rude to ignore the effort it took for someone to comment on your post, especially when you make your blog public, and just leave comments without any replies. Just ask sure to take the time to reply to the comments you get. You’re definitely not obliged to reply to all of them, but it’s recommended.

Don’t Feel Like You’re Annoying

I know there are people out there who feel nervous or awkward when it comes to commenting – whether it’s a big blogger or just any blog at all – and you really shouldn’t! I know I felt awkward when I first started commenting, but the more you do it, the more comfortable you become. The book blogging community is one of the nicest communities out there, so I wouldn’t worry about anyone not being anything less than welcoming.

Do Try To Visit Some People’s Blogs

It’s no obligation to have to comment back – if you don’t know what that is, it’s basically visiting the blog of someone who commented on yours and leaving a comment on one of their post – but it’s definitely a great way to give back to some of your loyal commenters or discover blogs that are new to you if you comment back! I’ve started doing it, and I’ve really enjoyed doing so and think I’ve gotten more traffic because of it, so it works both ways!

Don’t Do It When You Don’t Feel Like It

If you don’t feel like commenting on people’s posts or a blogger’s post is hard to comment on, don’t comment. Networking is never a good idea if you’re not in the mood for it. I know that I have to be in a mood to comment around, and some days I feel on top of it and other days, I just really need to take a break. And that’s perfectly fine! Most bloggers understand if you need a break!

Do Focus On One Or Two Accounts

I think the best idea is to just put all your hard work into a couple of accounts that you really enjoy! If you already have a good following on Twitter, stick to it! If you like taking pretty pictures of books, join Instagram! If you think Bloglovin’ will get you traffic, join the site! If you think Goodreads is a good way to keep track of your books, join it! I think it’s best to choose the ones you like the most and expand your audience, rather than having fifty different accounts that stress you out!

Don’t Always Promote

I feel like people can get caught up too often in just promoting, promoting, promoting when you don’t have to do that all the time! I know I get turned off by Twitter accounts where all their tweets are promo – whether it’s give-aways, constant at retweets of other people’s blog posts, or sharing of their own. It’s good to use social media for that purpose and you’re free to do whatever you want with it, but at the same time, it’s great for people to learn more about you outside of blogging!

Do Take A Break

If you’re getting stressed out or social media is having a negative influence on you or you just can’t keep up with it all, take a break! There’s really no need to stressing yourself out when it comes to social media, especially since it’s not even necessary, and, sometimes, we need to get away from this mentality of validating ourselves through likes and retweets and followers!

Don’t Be Shy

As a shy person, I totally get it. Interaction is sort of terrifying, and even more terrifying if you admire the person you want to talk to, but don’t fret! Pretty much everyone is a super nice person in the book blogging community, and I think once you take the plunge, you’ll get more and more comfortable! I know I feel way more comfortable tweeting now than I did when I first signed up!

Do Be A Genuine Person

Don’t just comment on someone’s post to get exposure. Don’t comment back just because you think it’ll increase blog traffic. Don’t feel the need to follow thousands of blogs in hopes they’ll follow back. I think it’s best to do something you genuinely want to do instead of doing it just because you expect something in return.

Don’t Be Rude Or Aggressive

I mean, I feel like this is pretty obvious? But it’s the Internet, so who knows anymore, to be honest. But, seriously, don’t threaten people. Don’t insult people. Don’t be rude for no reason. Just be a good person. I really don’t think it’s that hard.

Do Interact With Others In Comment Sections

I’ve had other bloggers who comment in my comment sections talk to others in my comment sections, and I think that’s totally awesome! The entire point is to have a discussion, so why not discuss among yourselves? And I think it’s the best way to find new blogging buddies to talk to (just, you know, don’t comment one hundred times back-and-forth and unnecessarily blow up someone’s notifications for no reason. That’s just cruel).

Don’t Trash-Talk People Somewhere Else

Again, you think this would be common courtesy, BUT IT IS NOT. Sometimes, people have conflicts, which can definitely happen to everyone, but for some reason, people feel the need to drag a million people who aren’t a part of the problem into it and it becomes all out war. Please, just work it out civilly. IT IS NOT HARD.

Do you have any tips in regards to networking? 


65 thoughts on “The Do’s And Don’ts of Social Networking (Or, How To Make All The Blogging Friends!)

  1. As a person who always leaves way too long comments, I definitely know how annoying it is when you don’t even get a reply back. Honestly, I’ve had it a couple of times with a certain blogger and, although I loved their content, I ended up unfollowing. You don’t want to invest your time in reading and commenting when they don’t even reply back. Ever. [In that case two of the posts were “discussion” topics and.. well.. No clue where the actual discussion went to if you don’t care to reply on comments..]

    As for commenting in general: You’re right to only do it when you feel like it. Otherwise you leave the most dry and standard comments that often feel as if you simply copy/pasted the thing.
    And that brings me to the link-ups. I get that people want to visit other people’s memes and get them to check out their own post of that day, but simply leaving “Nice list! Here’s mine:..” is just annoying. Especially if you hop around those posts and see that the same person left that same comment almost everywhere. Did he/she even LOOK at my list?! Who knows..

    YES to the endless Tweets of post-shares and giveaways. I sometimes have to look pretty hard to find an actual normal Tweet for once. I only share the posts I publish and that’s it. That or I found something that I reallyreally want to share, but most of the time I don’t. My Twitter is to update people on me and not to use as some kind of advertisement for everyone – not to be mean, haha.

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    • question: do you count the blogger ‘liking’ your comment as responding? sometimes the comments aren’t really something you can respond to. i find this to be true more on my instagram then on my blog; but i was just wondering what someone else’s thoughts on it were. πŸ™‚ and i definitely agree that it’s annoying when you take the time to respond to their post and then you get nothing back…

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      • If you actually commented in a general way that doesn’t really need an answer, I’d definitely say “liking” your comment is an answer in itself. But it simply depends on the content of the comment, I guess.
        If I were to simply “like” your question to me, you could see it as a “Yup, I agree” or “Good question but I’m not replying” while I bet you’d rather have me giving this answer instead, haha.

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    • it wouldn’t let me reply to your reply. lol it’s probably too early for blogging or i should go back to bed or something. thanks! i just wondered how others felt about it. πŸ™‚

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    • Yep, I’ve never had that experience, but I know it’d definitely be annoying to comment on someone’s posts all the time and never get a response! I’ve never gotten that type of attitude from discussion posts…how is it a discussion if you don’t talk?

      Yeah, my comments when I’m in the mood to blog-hop are definitely much longer and more heartfelt then when I’m forcing myself, so I don’t do that! And, yeah, I don’t participate in memes much, but it seems like most people hate those types of comments!

      Ugh, yeah, I think I mind less if they’re promoting their own posts than if every single one of their tweets is just promoting a different book. That drives me crazy. 😝

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      • Be happy about it! I have no clue.. After a while it just started feeling like “Yay, look what I got! A discussion post about a topic I want to talk about but, don’t worry, I won’t actually continue discussing it! I just wanted a post for today!” Or something like that..

        Makes perfect sense! Although, if I’m not in the mood, I can still produce longer comments. But those might have a ton more whining and complaining in them, haha.

        Indeed! Especially since there’s often not even a specific genre they stick to. It’s just.. anything they can find or stumble upon.. :’)

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  2. i agree with all of these! the only social networking i do is instagram and then i share those posts to my personal facebook. i should probably do other things; but right now that seems time consuming enough! and why add stress? especially since blogging is supposed to mostly be just a fun hobby.

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  3. I love this post! You gave me some great tips for starting out! I know when I first started blogging (a little over a month ago) I didn’t want to expect anything overnight. But it’s so hard! Thanks for this post!! ❀️

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  4. I think I probably agree with all of your tips and I don’t think there’s anything much to add.

    I do sometimes forget to respond to comments (sorry) and I am a little guilty of using my Twitter for promo but I generally found my tweets about life, the universe and everything were pretty much ignored. Obvs my life is not very interesting.

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  5. I’ve recently been enjoying getting involved with discussion posts. I’m finding my own blogging life evolving. I’m less interested in book blogs that are saturated with blog tour posts or guest author pieces.
    So now I’m trying to find ‘new to me’ about other things which interest me. I think there are a multitude of reasons people blog and their time and commitment levels to being social vary immensely.
    I’m just grateful is people spend the time reading my posts, commenting and sharing my posts. I in turn will read and share posts I think will interest others.

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  6. Totally agree with this post. There is nothing more annoying than not getting a reply, especially when you take the time to post a decent comment….on a post that is supposed to generate a discussion!
    It really does make a difference. I get that some comments are hard to respond to. But if they’re meaningful comments, please just respond. It just comes across as rude otherwise.

    We should be supporting each other. Not just using each other to boost our own blog views! πŸ™‚

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  7. I really think commenting goes a long way to getting more exposure on your blog and in meeting new people and making friends. In my experience, taking part in a weekly tag helped me a lot too (like Top 5 Wednesday), because other T5W-ers tend to comment on your post, and then in turn you leave a comment on their post, you know? Discussion posts such as this one can also get some great discussions in the comments going, and from then you can chat to a bunch of people through that πŸ™‚

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    • Yep, definitely! I think commenting is a universal thing that pretty much every blogger can do right off that bat, which is awesome! Yep, memes can definitely help get that interaction; I’ve seen lots of people say they found good blogging friends through them! πŸ˜„ And, yes, I love it when people chat with each other in my comment sections; that’s always fun!

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  8. This is some really good sound advice! I’m glad I have been doing it right so far πŸ™‚ It’s enjoyable to talk to other bloggers about stuff and I thought maybe I would sneak my blog link in but I’m glad I didn’t do that and I have noticed that people that I talk to genuinely tend to check out my blog after.

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    • Thank you so much! ❀️ Yeah, I’ve always found it best not to leave a link, especially since some bloggers comment back anyway, so they’ll eventually visit your blog! I’m more likely to remember someone who left a long comment or has consistently commented on all my posts over someone who leaves a link! πŸ˜‚

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  9. Woow!! what a timing!! Because I am a new in book blogging!! This post is a really helpful one. Since I’m new to the book blogging world, I don’t really know anyone. So these tips will be a really big help for me how to make friends and how to interact with other bloggers.:)

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  10. I don’t think that there is too much to add, your tips are quite good and what many of us do..even when we suck at social media like me…What I would recommend is just be patient and keep trying, and if something doesn’t work try something else until you get your groove on…

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  11. Thank you for this post! Even before I started blogging I’ve loved blog-hopping (I actually just learned this term not too long ago, omg I feel so out of the loop), so I’m thankful for the ideas on how to find more blogs to read! I’ve never been very good at putting myself out there, but this is a whole new ballgame and if I want to play I have to get serious. I can only hope that someday I’ll have the creativity and long-term stamina of some of my favorite bloggers!

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  12. Well I think you covered everything… most important yes is to reply if someone leaves a comment of course. Be respectful too and don’t trash are sound advices as I hate trashing. No “all promotion” is also good except if your blog specializes in promoting and nearly nothing else aside reviews. Now be patient that’s so so true!! And enjoy what you do, be genuine these are the most importants LOL

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  13. This is a great post, I love all of your tips here πŸ™‚ When it comes to blogging, I agree that it’s so important to acknowledge when someone commented on your blog, took the time to do so, and answer to them accordingly. It’s nice and fun and that way, you’re able to talk to people and it’s the best thing about blogging for sure πŸ™‚ What matters the most, I think, is to be genuine and comment when we want to and feel like it. Forcing ourselves to blog, comment and social network isn’t good and will just make us hate it even more ahah πŸ™‚
    I’m really shy over on Twitter, I am not sure why… but I admire people tweeting and taking part in important discussions over there, for sure. So much of the community happens over there πŸ™‚
    Great post πŸ™‚

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    • Yep, it’s definitely great to reply to comments; I don’t know why people wouldn’t! It’s just really nice to see what people thought of what you wrote! ❀️ For sure! I’ve noticed my comments are much longer and more thought-out when I’m genuinely in the mood to do so over when I’m forcing myself!

      Yeah, I don’t know, I just always second-guess myself when I try to tweet? But I hope I start branching out more!

      Thank you, Marie! ❀️

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  14. Hi Mikaela! Love this post ❀
    I’ve started commenting back recently as well, and I found that it is such a great way to make friends and build connections in the blogging community! I agree that replying to comments is so important. I probably wouldn’t notice if a person doesn’t reply to one or two comments, but if it is consistent, then it deters me from visiting or commenting on their blog again. I suppose the one exception is if that blogger is super famous ahaha- then I expect that they wouldn’t have time to reply :’)

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  15. Ah thank you so much for these! I am the WORST at interacting and making friends, I’m so afraid that I come on too strong 😦 I especially agree with the link ups, I HATE it when people just leave their link and leave! There’s so much more to it!

    ~ noor

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  16. Thank you for posting such helpful tips. This has really helped me :). I also find that I get really impatient and want results, so I’m trying to work on it.

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    I feel like HONESTLY I HARDLY COMMENT BACK. Because that’s true! I do hardly comment back- and it’s a really bad habit, I guess, but I HAVE NO TIME I’M SORRY. I just try and comment on all of the blogs that I love and to give them support but it’s so freaking hard to keep up with all of the new blog posts that are coming out, in my opinion!

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  18. If I have trouble thinking of a reply to a post I usually like the post so that I can go back to it later and comment. Reading the part of about being shy is so true! I had to shed that part of me. It’s a little hard for me to keep up with comments at the moment due to academics!

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    • I do the same! Sometimes I’ll just binge-like a bunch of posts because I’m busy, and then the next day, I’ll go back through and comment! Yep, I feel like I’m still shy in real life (I just can’t help it lol), but I like to think I’m more outgoing on the Internet??? AND I FEEL THAT. School is keeping me busy, and I hate it! 😦


  19. I think commenting back is a really nice gesture to do when people comment on your posts, as a little gift for taking some time out of their day to leave a comment!! Altho sometimes you wonder if people are commenting just for a comment, which sucks…

    And YES. I so agree with not commenting if you don’t feel like it!! It’ll sound forced and the blogger can tell, and commenting will just be a chore. (Well, to some it may already be a chore — sadly — but to others it’s not!) Great post!

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    • Yep, so true! I tend to have the same people commenting on my posts on average (and usually get some new ones depending on how popular the post is), so it is nice to pay it back by commenting on other people’s posts!

      Yeah, my comments are definitely not as great when I’m not in the mood to comment, so I definitely wait until I’m ready to do so to dive in! πŸ˜€

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  20. YASSSS!! πŸ™Œ This post is great with awesome advice! Totally agree with everyone that commenting is one of the best ways to get your blog out there. And it’s SO TRUE that the everyone in the book blogging community is super duper nice!!! The more bloggers I encounter, the more I ask myself WHY I DIDN’T DO THIS SOONER because everyone is just so lovely!

    Lately I’ve been using the tag function on my WordPress reader a lot and it’s been a great help in finding new blogs to follow! I feel like I can cover more ground and discover really great things that way. But you’re definitely right when you say you have to be in the mood. Just coming off a commenting vacation myself πŸ‘

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    • Thank you so much, Loretta! ❀ And it's so true, the book blogging community is so kind, that it's really easy to get involved and not feel scared! I've actually heard of people using the tag function to find bloggers! I've personally never used it myself, but I'm sure it's quite effective! πŸ˜€

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  21. Thank you so much for sharing this information! As a new blogger it can be both exciting and nerve wrecking attracting people to your blog. I want people to genuinely be interested in my material, and vice versa. Keep up the great work, I will definitely be following you because your blog is full of great material that I’m confident will help my journey. πŸ™‚

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  22. Enjoyed reading your article! Would def. try to improve my commenting skills, but hey it seems to be fun πŸ™‚
    I started blogging a long time ago, but not very frequently and expected too much… Anyways greets from Austria πŸ™‚
    Really love the way you write!

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