[LET’S CHAT] The Complexities of Blog Commenting

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I’m going to assume that most bloggers love comments.

I know that I love comments! Nothing can put a smile on my face faster than replying to all your thoughts and hearing your opinions and seeing if we share any of the same interests. And the feeling you get when someone who hasn’t commented before finally does is like a small victory.

In the short time I’ve been on the blogosphere (it’ll be five months on May 20. WHERE DID THE TIME GO???), I’ve noticed that there seems to be a sort of commenting etiquette for book bloggers. This is another one of those things that we as book bloggers always talk about, and it seems like no other niche-type blog does. But, I wanted to talk about some of the “commenting etiquette” rules it seems like have been established and dissect them a little!

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(Also, the people who voted on Twitter voted for this post, so yeah! Don’t worry, the other post is slated for a week from now, so it shall arrive in due time.)

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Rule #1: Commenting is key to growing your blog.

I can confirm that this one is definitely true! Reaching out and commenting on blogs was what got me my first couple of followers (shout out to Janel and Chelsea!) and I continued to grow time and time again because I commented on so many blogs. I know that I definitely find a lot of people through the comments sections of posts, which is probably how I started following most of the bloggers I follow today! Or maybe I’m the only one who stalks the comment sections of old posts more often than I should.

Basically, the more effort you put into your comments and into commenting on other people’s post, the more your name is out there, and the more likely people will probably end up checking out your blog if they see your name everywhere. This doesn’t mean you have to comment on ALL THE POSTS OUT THERE. I know for sure that I get busy or I’m just straight up lazy and don’t feel like commenting on all the posts of ever, which is totally fine. Hopefully, people will understand you have a life outside of blogging.

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Rule #2: Bloggers MUST reply to comments.

This is somewhat true, I’d say. I know there are some people who can quickly get irritated if a blogger just refuses to reply to comments – there’s a difference between a late response and just never getting a response ever, after all – and it’s sort of weird having a public blog that anyone can comment on, and never bothering to actually interact with anyone or start a conversation, because why keep the blog public at that point, but who knows what everyone else is thinking?

I will say, as someone who frequently stalks the comment sections of old blog posts, I HAVE seen comment sections where the blogger only responds to about six or seven of the eighty comments they get and they’re still super popular. Who knows, that blogger might choose to just to go to a commenter’s blog and comment on one of their posts instead of replying to their own comment sections, which is fine as well! It might help downplay the amount of stress and work you have if you just choose to go to their blog instead of replying to all the comments on your own.

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Rule #3: Commenting back is compulsory and advised.

I was honestly quite confused on what “commenting back” meant when I was a smaller blogger. I thought it meant that I replied back to comments on my own blog, which I already did, but then I learned that what it really meant was visiting the blog of someone who commented on your post!

And, honestly? I’ve never intentionally done it and I feel like I should start doing it??? I’ve never done it mainly because a large majority of the people who comment on my blog are people I already follow, but I know there are some people out there who have been loyally commenting and I’ve just never visited your blog before, which totally sucks! I’m hoping to try and improve on this over the summer when I have more time and I’m just basically lazing around and doing nothing.

I’d like to say my blog is still growing pretty well and people still comment on my posts even if I’ve never commented back ever, so I wouldn’t say it’s something that would be detrimental to growing your blog, but if it’s something you want to do, I suggest you do it! I’ve heard it’s good for blog growth (but I wouldn’t know, though, so, there’s that).

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Rule #4: Comments meant to promote your blog are rude.

I can agree that I really don’t like these types of comments. You know, the ones that are some variation of a generalized comment that could go to any blog, and then, “Check out my post!” with a link. Nine times out of ten I don’t click on the link because why should I when most of the time, promo comments are just straight up spam.

One time, I actually got a comment where it was literally just a link to their site – nothing more, nothing less – and, thankfully, since I turned on the feature where people who’ve never commented before have to be approved by me, I just marked it as spam and moved on with my day. I do always feel a bit awkward when I get a comment, and it’s basically just, “Nice post! I tagged you in this thing!” and then a link to the post they tagged me in. You can tell that, in a way, it’s genuine, but it’s just so awkward when you’d rather they just linked you in their original post so I could get a ping-back.

Overall, I think I’d just rather have no links in my comments section unless I ask for them in some way, but everyone’s different!

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Rule #5: Short comments aren’t really good enough.

I feel like most people seem to prefer longer comments than shorter comments, which is perfectly fine, because who doesn’t like receiving so many long comments because your post inspired them to talk that much! But then I also see people say that they don’t like short comments or that short comments aren’t as meaningful as long comments, which I don’t think is true.

Though there are definitely people who comment on my blog that prefer to start their own mini discussion, which I absolutely love, I do cherish the shorter comments I get! I personally don’t see shorter comments as meaning that the blogger who commented doesn’t care, but maybe they’re just not a wordy person. In all honesty, the fact that anyone even bothers to comment on my stuff totally astounds me, so long or short comment, I’m grateful that I get any at all!

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And those are just some thoughts on blog commenting and how damn complicated it all is! 

Obviously, we all have different systems of commenting and commenting back and which types of comments we prefer because we’re all different types of bloggers. But I definitely do love and appreciate all the comments you guys leave me, and I love responding to them!

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What are your opinions on commenting and commenting back? What are your favorite types of comments to receive? What’s your commenting system?

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108 thoughts on “[LET’S CHAT] The Complexities of Blog Commenting

  1. I agree with all of the above. It was really tough for me in the beginning trying to navigate the unspoken rules of blogging; I didn’t know any other bloggers and just had to kind of feel my way around until I figured things out. I think how you’re going about all the blog posts to help new bloggers is amazing and wish I had found something like this back in my newbie days! ❤️

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    1. Ooh, I feel you! If it wasn’t for the fact that I stalked so many blogs before I launched mine, I would probably have been clueless as to what to do. And, aw, Chelsea, those are such kind words; thank you so much! ❤

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  2. I agree. In order to talk to make your blog known it’s a good start to comment on their posts as well! When I’m busy I don’t have much time commenting everywhere but I’m definitely planning to do that more when I have more time over the summer!

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    1. Definitely! I know so many of my referrals when I started out were from the comments I left! I feel you; I’m hoping I’ll be able to comment more during the summer because school kills me. 😂

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      1. There’s always something that distracts me if it’s not school ir’s work. It’s time consuming but I’m gonna make the effort to be more engaging on here.

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  3. I don’t comment back, I attempted it once and had no clue what to comment on because I wasn’t really interested in that person’s content. Then I quit doing it entirely. When I get a comment from someone I don’t yet know I do often check out their blog but I don’t force myself to find something to say. I love getting comments in whatever way, but I love getting comments that show that the person took the time to read your post and tell their own opinions. Commenting is a great way to get to know more people! I don’t really care much about the follower count, but meeting people is the best!

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    1. Haha, I’d feel like that would be my main problem – not finding a post to comment on that doesn’t sound like I’m fake interested. 😬 I do the same! Whenever I get new followers, I check out their blog (even if it’s obviously not a book blog lol) just because I’m curious! Yes, definitely; I agree! It definitely helps me learn more about the person behind the blog; some bloggers just have a certain commenting style I recognize!

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  4. Wow, I’d never really thought of it like that before – SO COMPLICATED! I must say though, that I am usually someone who doesn’t add large comments – I’m really not a wordy person, like you said. So I agree that it doesn’t mean that we don’t want to talk to you!

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    1. Everything is so complicated when you think about it! 😂 Yeah, exactly! I know sometimes, I’m just not in a wordy mood that day, therefore, my comment isn’t super long, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t care. I just get exhausted sometimes. 😄

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  5. I agree totally with the short comments section – people are busy and the fact they choose to comment at all is great! They took time out of their day to not only read the post but leave their thoughts too (however short they may be). I often leave shorter comments when I’m on my lunch break because I just don’t have time to read all of the entries I want to read AND leave long and meaningful comments on all of them. I am notorious for liking blog entries which I intend to comment on later, I might not get to them for weeks but I get to them eventually!

    It’s always a bit nervewracking to comment on someone’s blog for the first time too!

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    1. Yes, exactly! It’s definitely better than people who lurk around and I don’t comment at all (even though those are appreciated as well; I love page views 😂). And that makes sense! I know I have some followers who only comment on a couple of my posts every so often, some who comment on all my posts as they go up, and some who wait till later and just spam me with likes and comments in their free time! I appreciate all of these people, no matter what! 😄

      It definitely is! But as soon as they reply, I realize I didn’t have to be nervous at all!

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  6. I love when people comment on my blog, and I also love to comment on other people blogs. I think that’s the point of the bookblogger community, talking about books, sharing ideas, making friends, is an incredible universe where I believe that we also have to respect each other and be sincere and kind. I also answer all the comments, I love doing that too, it’s important if someone took the time to comment, comment back, right? . So yes!, by the way this is a great post!😊😊❤

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    1. Yes, I definitely agree! Commenting is a huge part of the blogging community because we all like to talk about books and we’re on here for a reason, right? And, yes, I agree; the least I can do is reply! And thank you! ❤

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  7. I love your discussion posts, they’re always on very thought provoking topics! I’m kind of on the fence. I definitely agree with a lot of it and think doing them have really helped me out, but at the same time, like you said, people get busy/lazy and it can be hard to catch up so while it’s definitly goodd to comment it can be hard sometimes! Sometimes i feel so guilty if I don’t scroll through my reader for a day because I think about the posts Im missing..its a tricky balance :p

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  8. I pretty much agree with most of the above and try to follow most of those rules. I have to admit though I’m not very good at commenting back. I’ll often comment on blogs I follow but don’t necessarily seek out blogs I don’t know (especially if I’m on the app which I usually am). If someone follows me I do usually go check out their blog and follow back which leads to their posts popping up on my reader and getting commented on.

    I’m a bit on the fence over people linking to their own posts in comments. If it’s a weekly meme I’m quite happy for them to do it or if they’ve written something related to the post that’s probably ok but when the same bloggers keep effectively spamming it gets annoying.

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    1. Yep, I definitely agree! I’m terrible at finding new blogs to follow, which is why this project is good for me as well, because I’m discovering so many new bloggers who just joined, so that’s nice!

      Yeah, I don’t mind with weekly memes (I used to do WWW Wednesday and was okay with people linking to their posts, even though no one did 😂), but on a discussion post? Not really.

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      1. I can’t really see many valid reasons for linking in the comments of a discussion post. Maybe if you’d done a similar discussion post or if it’s a discussion about books and you’d reviewed one mentioned. Even then I’d be more likely to say I’d done a similar post or I’d read something and wait to be asked for a link. Although I think that’s mostly fear that others will get annoyed I’m self promoting on their blog. I don’t overly mind on my blog provided there is some actual comment and not just here’s a link. Reblogging my posts without attributing or at least asking me probably bothers me more.

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      2. Oh, yeah, is definitely feel like I’m annoying others. I feel like that all the time, honestly. 😂 I’ve never had one of my posts reblogged, but I think it’d annoy me, too! Especially if they just reblog it, but don’t comment on it. Like…thanks, I guess?

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  9. I really don’t know how you do it but your posts are always so relatable and just…wonderful?
    I absolutely LOVE comments, and long comments ARE THE BEST EVER. I feel like someone has actually read my posts and cares enough to write their thoughts and start a discussion. Commenting is like they key to having blogger friends and meeting new people, not to mention finding new amazing blogs to follow.
    Short comments are FINE because sometimes PEOPLE GET BUSY and it’s totally okay if they leave a short comment!!! BUT I hate Spam-ish comments like ‘Great post, blog link’. I HATE IT. I know they haven’t read the post and are just giving self-promo – just, like, what? I have the same feelings with the whole ‘follow for follow’ comments. By leaving a link, I won’t visit your blog. By leaving a genuine comment, I’ll try and visit your blog but I’m JUST NOT interested in your content (like beauty blogs) I won’t follow even if you’re a super loyal follower. This might sound snobbish but YOU LIKE books (my blog) but I don’t like your topic. That doesn’t mean your blog is RUBBISH, I’m just not interested. I think this is okay, but I like to give all blogs a chance.
    I try and reply to most comments, and I think I do. Sometimes, I am slightly late with my reply, but that’s because a)it might be a long comment and I need more time to give a good answer b)I just don’t have the time or don’t see it until later.
    Wonderful discussion, loved every minute!!!

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    1. AW THANK YOU MAHRIYA; THAT IS SO SWEET! ❤

      Yes, same; I absolutely love long comments! ❤ Even though it takes long to reply to them, I really do enjoy it since I love blabbing myself. 😂

      Yes, definitely! I know there are some days where I’m just like, “I’m going to comment on all the posts and do all the networking and I’m going to kill it” and some days I’m just like, “Meh.” 😂 So I try, at least! Oh, yep I agree! I’ve luckily never gotten a “follow for follow” comment, but I got them a lot when I used to be on Instagram!

      I agree! I mean, I have spam followers who aren’t book blogs at all, and it confuses me that they still are. 😂 And I know I’ll just never even bother checking out their blogs.

      Thank you so much! ❤

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  10. I agree with these rules of etiquette and I tried to follow them when commenting on my favorite blogs except maybe the lenght of my comments they still need a little work. Also you’re absolutely right, I too believe that commenting it’s the reward for the work you put out there, it’s how you can get to know everyone and their thoughts. I just started my blog a week ago actually, so, no comments yet for me but fingers crossed right? it takes time. The good thing is that in that time I have found quite a few new book blogs to follow and that’s how I happen to find yours. It’s great and expect more comments from me for sure, I like the style of your posts so congrats on your hard work.

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    1. Aw, don’t worry about length; this is totally fine! 😄 Definitely; it’s probably why I sometimes get disappointed when my posts get less comments than I expected (but I haven’t had that problem too much anymore, so that’s good)! Welcome to book blogging; so nice to see so many new people on this post today! 😄 It definitely does take time; just be patient! This took a good two or so months before I felt comfortable with my blog! And thank you so much for the compliment! 😘

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  11. I’m definitely guilty of leaving short comments, sometimes they’re just words of encouragement that don’t need really need a long comment. I really can’t stand when people link to blog posts when I didn’t ask for it, it’s just as bad as commenting follow for a follow. I always make an effort to reply to comments on my blog posts. I love your discussion posts, they’re always very well thought out, well written and really make me think about things!

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    1. Yep, and that’s totally fine! I love long comments, but if every single one of my comments was super long, I’d be drowning in replying. 😂 Yes, same! Especially since WordPress makes it that I can just click your name and it’ll send me to your blog, so there’s no reason to leave a link??? And, aw, thank you so much! ❤ I’m glad you love my discussions; I adore writing them!

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  12. YESS #4! I haven’t noticed it too much on my blog, but Instagram is terrible for it 😔 I’ve gotten in the habit of deleting purely promotional comments from my instagram because looking at them just urks me 🙀

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    1. Oof, I feel you! When I was on bookstagram, promotion was so annoying! Especially those random accounts that just comment an emoji and nothing else. And don’t get me started on those people who’d follow…and unfollow…and follow…and unfollow…

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  13. I guess I should go reply to my comments then. XD I was unaware blogging had rules..but then I’m usually unaware that life has rules. (Probably the reason I survived high school because I was aware of absolutely nothing going on around me. I was the kid in the corner with the book.)

    I personally don’t care about comment length because I wouldn’t want anyone trying to make up stuff they hadn’t really wanted to say, just to avoid being rude.

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    1. I mean, I wouldn’t say there are real rules, just ones I’ve observed from the book blogging community and what they say! 😂 But, I do recommend it! I’m more likely to comment if I know the blogger responds! And, same; I’m in high school now and are there rules??? I don’t know??? 😂

      Yeah, same! I know that sometimes, I just can’t carry on the comment forever, so I’d rather leave a short comment than nothing!

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  14. I agree with everything you said! Especially when other bloggers just comment on someone else’s post to promote their own blog! To be honest, if I notice a new follower frequently commenting on my posts and being an amazing follower, I decide myself to take the time to check out their post, because I just feel as if there’s a nice thing to do. Sometimes when you’re a new blogger and you want followers, you just gotta be nice and not pressure people to follow you, eventually they’ll end up following you anyway!
    Great post, I’ve recently discovered your blog and I’m loving it so far😄 I swear all book bloggers are amazing, I’m envious of you guys sometimes😂💞

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    1. Yeah, I agree! That’s the main reason I want to comment back so much – because there are some people on here who comment on all of my posts and have been following me for months, and I’ve never gone to the blog, AND I SHOULD! And, yes, that’s great advice! I remember sometimes resisting to follow a blog because I knew the only reason I was doing it was because they said they would follow back, and I wanted more followers. But then I realized they wouldn’t be ~real~ followers. I just had to be patient, and it’s definitely paid off! 😄

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  15. Is it weird that I like reading other people’s comments on blog posts that aren’t my own. Especially on discussion posts like this, I have a POV and I’m like, let me see if anyone else thinks the same as me. Loads of random blogs I don’t follow must think – who is this weirdo always liking my comments haha 🙈 I’m nosey by nature haha

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    1. OMG, no! I do the same thing!!! And not even just for recent discussions, but I’ll look through the comments of, like, three-year-old discussions. 😂 It’s actually pretty interesting to see how many do them are just fine now. But, yes, I feel you! I don’t know why I like doing it, I just like it. Natural observed, I guess?

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    2. Haha…I do the same thing! I was literally doing this just now when I saw your comment. I LOVE reading what other people think, which sometimes keeps me from commenting. If I see a bunch of people already said exactly what I was thinking, there is no need to say the same thing just to be in the conversation.

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  16. I used to comment back but honestly I just don’t have the time now. I only do it with memes these days and people that often comment I go to every now and then still. But it is hard to exchange a comment for a comment and also reply to all the comments you get on the blog. Social blogging is exhausting. But worth it most of the time. Not just for growing your blog but to get to know others.

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    1. Ooh, yeah, I definitely get that! I’d love to pay back the blogs who always comment such sweet comments on all of my posts! And, yeah, that definitely makes sense! I’m an introvert, and being social is always exhausting for me, but it’s definitely worth it! 😄

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  17. This is all so true, and honestly it’s been tough for me with commenting lately since I’ve been so busy and haven’t been able to be as involved with the community lately as I used to be! I’m working on it though! I solemnly swear I am!

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    1. I totally feel you! I think the only reason I can even keep up is because I don’t follow that many blogs (which is bad lol 😂). It’s totally fine to not be able to comment on all the blogs! Hopefully, people will understand! 😄

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  18. I definitely try to reply to comments on my blog and comment back on the commentators blog. I think this is the #1 thing that drives traffic to my blog. Commenting. It is just very time consuming. Thank goodness I don’t have 80 comments per post and have to decide between the two! :-p LOL

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    1. Yep, definitely! I feel like it’s one of the best ways to network without social media (which is for another post 😉). It really is! I can’t even imagine how much time it takes for those bloggers who get, like, 60-70 comments per post. Just replying to 20 comments on my own posts takes a good hour for me now! 😄

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  19. OMG YES I NEEDED THIS POST. I love reading my precious cupcakes’ comments and it honestly brightens my day so much!! AH AND I KNOW RIGHT. LINKS LEADING BACK TO BLOGS IN THE COMMENTS CAN BE SO. DAMN. ANNOYING. Long comments are a treat to my eyes because who doesn’t love to read more, right? Sometimes, replying to all the comments does get overwhelming, but that makes this community even more enjoyable and fun. 😜 AND DID I MENTION THAT I LOVE CAPS? YEAH YOU SHOULD BE KNOWING BY NOW *as you’ve already seen me break the capslock button in this comment lol* 😂

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    1. I definitely agree; nothing brightens my day than replying to all the comments I receive, especially when it’s been a really crappy day. AND I AGREE. The spam comment wasn’t even a book blog, which makes it even more hilarious. 😂 And, yes, long comments are such a treat! And yeah, sometimes I get overwhelmed with replying to comments, but it’s the good kind of overwhelmed??? AND YES I APPRECIATE CAPS TO EXPRESS EXCITEMENT! 😂

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  20. I think you’ve hit most of the major expectations. I don’t care as much about commenting back, but I do think it’s imperative to reply to the comments on your own blog. I have stopped visiting some blogs because the owner never responds, not to me and not to anyone else. I think it’s rude, like ignoring people trying to speak to you. I think you can choose not to reply to your own comments, but you cannot expect people to continue commenting on your blog. Some of these people then go on rants about never receiving comments when they don’t answer any!

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    1. Yes, definitely! I feel like commenting back is something I at least want to try because I know some people who continually leave comments have amazing blogs…but I don’t visit them! And I also suck at following more blogs, so it’d be more of a personal goal! Yeah, that’s definitely true! I’d be less likely to comment on a blog if I realize that the blogger never responds to them! I remember I commented on a review of a book I was excited for, and my comment never got approved. And I just brushed it off because they might not have seen it, but now I don’t really want to comment on that blog anymore (especially since they replied to everyone else’s comments). So, it does have an impact, for sure!

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      1. Yeah, I don’t mind if the blogger doesn’t reply to comments once in a while, but if they never reply to me, and never reply to anyone else, I’m not commenting. I’ve run across some older blogs that barely get comments anymore because everyone took the hint they the blogger literally never responds.

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  21. This is such a great post and (if I remember correctly), I voted for this post on Twitter too! I love reading about commenting!

    I feel like commenting on people’s posts (especially genuine comments that show you read and thought about the post) is definitely going to grow your blog quite quickly! Even more so if your display picture is appealing (be it your blog icon or a photo of yourself)! I will often look through different posts for new people to follow and if their picture is appealing, I’m much more likely to click through to their blog! And I feel like commenting back goes along these lines as you’re expanding your visibility further!

    The ‘commenting back’ term quite confused me for a while too! I always thought people just meant replying to the comments you get on your blog! Took me quite a while to figure out they meant visiting the person’s blog and leaving a comment there too! I definitely used to be much better at it a couple of weeks ago – I haven’t been as good lately and I hate it.

    I definitely feel like replying to a comment is somewhat of a must! And if there isn’t anything to add or really reply, I usually like the comment to show that I saw, read and appreciated it!

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    1. Ooh, yeah! It bothers me that I couldn’t find a way to see who voted for what via Twitter. 😝

      Oh, yes, I agree! There’s a lot of people I recognize in comments sections simply because of their photo and I’ve seen it EVERYWHERE, so naturally I click to check it out! 😂

      Glad to see I wasn’t the only one confused! I felt the same way when people talked about “weekly memes,” because memes are totally different things outside the book blogging world. I really want to start doing that! And I also wanted to do this thing where I commented on different book blogs at least twice, but I’m waiting till I have more time, so summer’s going to be busy!

      Definitely! It’s probably why if I have nothing to add to someone’s reply, I at least like it to show I read it!

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  22. I love the points you made on this discussion Mikaela. I definitely definitely agree that commenting is important, and that in terms of helping your blog grow it’s the best way to ensure you get more followers and traffic.
    I love seeing comments on my posts, and I make it a priority to reply to every single one of them no matter what. I don’t see the point of not replying to followers, it feels too much like ignoring them and if someone enjoyed your post enough to right a comment the least you can do is reply back right? I mean maybe it’s not for everyone, commenting back, but that’s just how I feel about it.
    I don’t always mind comments that promote other people’s posts, as long as it’s clear the other person has made an effort to actually read my post you know. The ones that are just generic make me doubt someone actually read what I wrote and if anything I’m even less inclined to check out their post you know?
    Great topic Mikaela, and I can’t wait to see your other one on reviews! 😀

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    1. Thank you so much, Beth! ❤ And, yes, it’s such a good way of getting traffic! I remember my early referrers were mainly from other people’s comment sections (and, personally, that’s how I find bloggers as well!).

      Yeah, definitely! It’s just so strange to me that some people would never reply to comments! It’s one of my favorite things to do no matter how long it takes, and I love talking to people!

      Generic comments with a link to them are definitely suspicious to me. I think I usually always feel awkward whether someone leaves a long comment and a link or a short comment with a link. Mainly because then I feel weirdly obligated to check it out even if I don’t want to? I’m weird. 😂

      Thank you, I’m excited as well! 😄

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      1. That’s all right, and that’s what I did as well. Also I tended to look at who people would tag when they did book tags or awards, I found a lot of the people I followed that way.
        It’s one of my favourite things as well, and kind of the whole reason I started this blog in the first place, to talk to people.
        I feel obliged to check it out if they comment with something that proves they read my post, if not I normally just read and like their post rather than comment you know? 🙂

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  23. Wow this is turning into a huge discussion. Thanks your for this post its good as a new book blogger to see the intricacies of commenting. The only problem with replying to comments is that wordpress.com counts my comment in with everybody else’s and I feel all popular till I realise. 😉

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    1. Aw, no problem! Welcome to the book blogging community! ❤ I’m glad this post was helpful to you! And, ooh, are you talking about getting notifications for comments? Or something else entirely? 😂

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  24. Blog comments are so hard! I feel like I have so many things going on with my own blog (and life!) that by the end of the day I don’t comment nearly as much as I would like to or as I should. I often share posts but don’t comment. Working on it lol

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    1. I usually comment on posts throughout the day unless I just don’t have enough time for that, and then I usually wait a couple of days before I catch up (even though I feel SUPER guilty when I don’t comment right away)! It’s probably the only reason why I even catch up with people’s posts! XD

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  25. What a great post. I am a teacher and wanted to start a class on blogging and one topic to be covered was how to comment. This is a perfect post for me to share with them! Thank you-I am new to blogging and it’s nice to get an idea of what others expect. I am not good at commenting on others’ blogs (maybe I am shy??) but I do agree that I should to show those bloggers I am here and I read it and I loved it! Happy blogging 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much! ❤ Ooh, a class on blogging sounds so awesome, and if you end up showing it to them, THANK YOU??? The fact that my post is actually good enough to show to a class warms my heart! ❤ And, yeah, welcome to blogging; I hope you love it! And don’t feel bad about being shy! I know I was when I started out, but the more I commented, the more comfortable I got! 😄 Thank you!

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  26. I remember when I first started the blog, I loved seeing your comments on my posts, and it still remains true! I love getting comments, I think they are so important and are a sort of feedback on the stuff you post, so they don’t feel like shouting out into the void! And I agree with everything you said!

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    1. Aw, thank you; I love seeing you pop up in my comment sections, too! ❤ And, yes, definitely! I remember getting my first likes and comments and being so excited because it meant I wasn’t alone! I’d feel so alone without all the comments I get! 😄

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  27. Okay so I’m just going to RANT about this now — I apologize in advance!

    I usually spend an hour to two hours reading and commenting on others’ posts.
    …I hate it.
    I mean, obviously, I LOVE to read these amazing posts and comment and interact! But I just HATE that I can’t put other things (like my schoolwork) over blogging and commenting, and that ever since I started blogging, I’ve been neglecting my homework until the last possible minute. Like, no???
    And I just CAN’T. STOP. It’s not that I DON’T want to comment — I just want to save that until later, after priorities are taken care of. But then I take a long time, leaving only a small amount of time to comment, and I feel so GUILTY about not commenting. I always love when people comment on my posts, and I just want to return the favor.

    ANYWAYS. I’m working on fixing that now (not today hahahahahaaaaaaaaaaa), but hopefully I’ll get better. But the school year is almost over for me??? In a few months, then. XD

    I love this discussion! I definitely agree that commenting on others’ posts is how you get “famous”, and replying back to comment is always essential to being a good blogger! My commenting rule is that if someone comments on my blog and I’m not following them, I go and comment on THEIR blog, like a little gift back. I don’t follow for follow though — I only follow for the content I TRULY want to read. 🙂

    I always feel strange to promote my blog in any way??? I hate when people do that thing where they say “Great post! Loved it! Check out my latest post: [link]” But if they’re like “Omg, I sooooo relate to [blah]. And you are so right on [blah]! Hahahaha you’re too funny — [blah] is too true!” and leave a link to their blog — that’s fine to me. 😛 But promoting is just so… awkward to me. XD And I LOOOOOOVE long comments! Which is probably why this comment is so long lol whoops. XD Short comments are awesome too, though; like you said, I’m honored that people would take the time to write out any response to my post.

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    1. No, don’t apologize; I love long comments! ❤

      I do that as well! Not commenting for two hours (I don’t follow that many blogs, so I don’t have too many posts in my Reader lol), but I do put blogging over school work. I guess it’s more okay for me because I’m just a procrastinator and I’ve been like this before blogging. 😂

      Yes, same; only a couple more weeks till I’m out of school! I’m so ready for it oh my God. Bookcon and blogging are in my future! 😄

      Yes, I want to start commenting back! I’ll probably wait until summer because I’m just tired because SCHOOL, but I will!

      Yeah, I much prefer that if I get a link to a blog if anything! I’ve never promoted myself on a post before, except when the blogger asked for links. And that was back in February. 😂

      And, same! It only takes a really good comment to totally make me smile and brighten my day! 😄

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  28. I’m a huge fan of commenting back!! In fact it’s my #1 priority when blogging! I mean outside of writing the posts…which is probably important too. 😂 For me it’s a kindness/politeness thing! I’ve had blogging friends whom I’ve commented loyally on their blogs for ages, even years sometimes, only to realise they never actually extended the friendship back to me. And like that’s fine! I don’t want to force anyone to be my friend.😂 But I’d rather put my time into bloggers who want to chat, you know?!?? It’s fun! I LOVE CHATTING ABOUT BOOKS!

    I also love short comments.😂 Not the spammy ones, ugh, they just show someone doesn’t care and just wants stats/views. But if someone just wants to tell me they loved my post or laughed and that’s it? I’m so for that! I think there shouldn’t really be a whole bunch of rules for commenting, just: have fun and be polite and kind!

    Loved the discussion as always! ❤

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    1. Haha, sometimes I feel like I do so much networking, I forget I have a blog to actually run. Oops. 😂

      Yeah, that definitely makes sense! It’s probably why I want to finally start reaching out and commenting back; I look at all of my followers’ blogs out of curiosity, and I’ve seen some amazing ones, but I never pay back, which is what I really want to do! 😄

      Yes, same! I have commenters who leave short comments all the time, and I don’t mind at all, especially since I answer my comments ALL AT ONCE, and it’s nice to break up a long comment with a short one. 😂 I definitely agree when it comes to those; I had someone comment on my blog in the most passive-aggressive manner, and I was so confused. 😂

      Thank you so much! ❤

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  29. Great discussion! I always love reading people’s thoughts on commenting. I ALWAYS comment back on my blog. (sometimes I don’t if it’s a giveaway post because usually its “thank you for the giveaway” 45 times and I just “like” the comment instead). ANWAYS. I reply because I love that someone has taken the time to read AND comment on my blog.

    However, I don’t do the comment back thing that often. (I also did not understand what that meant when I started lol). Like you, most of the people who comment on my blog I already follow. I already have their latest post in my queue for when I blog hop. So I just wait until I blog hop to do that. Though when it is someone new I DO click on their blog link if they have it in the comment or in their Disqus profile. Sometimes I comment, sometimes I don’t.The biggest thing for me is that I’m genuine when I comment and sometimes I just don’t have anything to add to the persons posts. I’d rather just not comment then fake a “GREAT POST!” sort of comment, you know? Maybe that’s not the right way to do it, I don’t know. haha

    I hope you like my long comment 😛

    Molly @ Molly’s Book Nook

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    1. Thank you so much, Molly! LOOK I FOUND YOUR COMMENT. XD

      Haha, yeah, there are some comments that warrant discussion, but some that are hard to get going, like my Anticipated Releases post. Like, what am I supposed to say to someone who says, “Wow, I’m so excited for [INSERT BOOK TITLE HERE], too!” It’s just super hard to reply to comments sometime. I do want to try to comment back over the summer. And, yeah, same! It just seems weird to me to NOT reply to comments because I love getting them!

      Yeah, same! There are some commenter’s whose blogs I’ve visited and might not have commented on, but I do check out all new blogs who follow or comment because I’m curious! And yes, same! This is one of the reasons why I’m always a bit wary about commenting back – I won’t find anything that I really want to comment on. Even though it’s ridiculous since most of their posts are really interesting??? I’m a terrible person. XD

      I did! I’m so glad I found it! 😀

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  30. This is a great post – I can relate to everything that you have written. I still struggle with commenting on blogs, mainly because I talk myself out of it along the lines of, I have nothing interesting to say!
    I thought your point about the promotional comment was really interesting, as I would feel really uncomfortable just leaving a link to my blog. I try not to do that – if I ever have, I am happy for people to call me out on that!
    This has definitely motivated me to stop second guessing myself and go ahead and comment – thanks so much for that!

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    1. I think this comment is definitely interesting, so don’t worry about sounding boring and not having anything good to say! 😄

      Yeah, same, I’d feel weird linking to my blog in the comments! I feel the same way when people ASK for links anyway. 😂

      Aw, no problem! I’m glad I could help! 😄

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  31. I think it’s super important to comment on other blogs just to get your name out there and to see what others are chatting about in the community and make friends! Commenting back is also essential in my perspective because if someone has spent time reading your post and commenting, then I feel you should extend the courtesy! (However, this depends on whether their comment was actually thoughtful or a copy paste of the same few phrases!)

    Great discussion Mikaela!

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    1. Ooh, definitely! I didn’t have social media when I started out, and the only way I got my blog to thrive was the fact that I commented on so many blogs! I definitely want to work on commenting back, for sure! And visiting and commenting on newer blogs as well! Thank you! ❤

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  32. I don’t think a comment is meaningful based solely on the length of the comment. I think it’s more about the content. Plus I wouldn’t want to judge someone for leaving a short comment. Maybe they were busy or didn’t know what to say, but still wanted to friendly and acknowledge having read or liked the post. I don’t understand why some bloggers would discourage that by saying the comments people leave them aren’t meaningful enough.

    Commenting back is also strange to me. I understand it’s expected, but I don’t really have time to comment back on every person who comments on my blog. Plus commenting on sites other than WordPress can be a nightmare. If I have to spend five minutes trying to prove I’m human, I don’t ever comment again, unfortunately,

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    1. Yeah, same! I’ve seen some bloggers say that short comments aren’t as meaningful, and I just don’t get that? I love long comments as much as the next person, but I really don’t care if I have followers who post short comments! Yeah, I know sometimes I want to leave a long comment, but I’m busy or lazy or just tired that day. 😂 It depends.

      Yeah, that’s my main problem with it – that I probably won’t have time along with all the other stuff. And, yeah, I have such trouble with Blogger! I tried to comment once, and it took five minutes, and in the end, the comment disappeared. So annoying! 😩

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      1. If I have a lot of comments on a post, sometimes the shorter ones are welcome because it makes it easier to read and respond to them all! Every comment has something useful to offer! 😉

        I think time is a huge issue for bloggers. We put so much pressure on ourselves to do everything–read, write content, do social media, do web design, take pictures, comment, comment back, etc. I have a co-blogger and we can’t do all this stuff to the extent it’s expected! I think we should all just blog and enjoy it and have friendly conversations when convenient. 🙂

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  33. Ooooh commenting. Such a complexity for sure. See, I LOVE commenting. And I love responding to comments on my blog. But I also love to like, sleep sometimes, and my kids need to be fed and stuff so the authorities aren’t called 😉 It’s hard because as much as I WANT to do it alllll the time, and respond to every comment and then comment back on every blog… there simply aren’t enough hours to always do that. I am SO guilty of the thing you mentioned where I respond on the first 6-7 comments, then vanish. Because again, TIME. And then I say I’ll go back the next day, and honestly, a lot of times I totally forget which post I was responding to, and accidentally move on to the next one!

    I also agree that the “check out my post” comments are just RUDE. Like, I am now NOT going to check out your post, even though I WOULD HAVE if you’d just left a normal comment hahah. I don’t get what people are thinking there. But like you said, I love any and all comments- and I really hope people know how much I value them even if I am unable to respond sometimes. Great post, this is such a tough topic for us book bloggers!

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    1. Yes, it definitely is hard! I don’t respond to comments until the day is over, and this past weekend, it took me TWO HOURS to respond to all the comments! And I didn’t even think I had received that many in the first place. 😂 So I can’t even imagine how it feels for bigger bloggers who receive SO MANY COMMENTS on all of their posts! It must be a nightmare. 😅 But I’m such a perfectionist, I don’t think I could ever leave a comment behind. I’m weak.

      Yeah, exactly! I just don’t get it when people just don’t leave me a normal comment! I usually check out the blogs of new people who comment, so I would’ve gotten there eventually, but now I don’t want to! And thank you! ❤

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  34. Lovely post! Commenting / Blog Hopping is what takes me the most time whenever I blog – It easily takes me 8 to 10 hours each week to do this because I take the time answering to each of my comments, which is quite insane at times and exhausting, but I’m really enjoying every single conversation I have and appreciate whenever someone answers to the questions I asked and all. I don’t expect the same level of crazy commitment of everyone, though – also I know that some comments don’t need an answer either. Answering to people is exhausting but really rewarding as well and part of the reason why I love blogging 🙂
    People leaving comments just with a link or a “nice post, check out mine” are really annoying and I don’t pay attention to them anymore, really – sorry if that’s mean ahah. I pay more attention to actual meaningful comments, ones that don’t have to be very long and rambly to be sweet and everything – the length of a comment definitely does not reflect on the blogger’s attention to your blog post 🙂

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    1. Yes, Marie; I know you get so many comments and it probably takes you so long to comment back! I remember one of my posts last week got SO MANY COMMENTS, and it took me two hours to respond to them all. It was exhausting, but worth it, for sure!

      It’s not mean! 😄 I’m still baffled as to why that person just commented with a link – they weren’t even a book blog??? 😂 And, yes, even though I love long comments, I really don’t mind short comments to break it up, especially when I’m going on a replying spree!

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  35. Mikaela this post is so relevant!

    Commenting is so important to the book blogging niche in my opinion. When people comment on my posts I try my hardest to respond to every single comment. And then I also go over to their blog and try and comment on one of their posts. Although I never force myself to do this step because I never want to leave a forced comment on one of their posts. If their posts inspire a reaction out of me I will always leave a comment, if it doesn’t and I have nothing to say or to add to the discussion then I won’t comment.

    I feel like that’s the key to being able to leave long comments. Although to be honest sometimes I have SUCH a hard time leaving long comments and it makes me feel guilty, like my comment isn’t in depth enough etc.

    Also I just discovered your Big Blogger, Little Blogger project – It sounds like an awesome project!

    Awesome points!

    Jordo @ Simply Adrift

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    1. It really is! Commenting in the book blogging community is this huge thing, and it’s probably not the same in other blogging niches. Yeah, I never want to leave a forced comment, especially if I stumble upon a blog that has only posted memes and reviews. Then I’ll have nothing to say, and it’ll be awkward!

      Yeah, I feel that! When I leave a shorter comment, I always feel like it’s not good enough, which shouldn’t be the case! All comments are good comments (unless it’s spam lol).

      Thank you so much! ❤ It’s been going really well so far, which makes me happy!

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  36. Hey, Mikaela! This was so helpful to me, I have set up my blog just tonight so I had no idea there was kind of an ‘unspoken etiquette’ to blogging – I’m so happy I clicked on your blog! Thank you so so much for your help, I look forward to your future posts 🙂

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  37. To be honest I don’t really care the length of the comments that people post on my blog… I’m already happy that people actually take the time and effort to write something down! I do feel like my blog’s esteem is elevated when there is a high comment count, and I myself enjoy commenting on other people’s blogs, because I know it’ll make them happy! Although sometimes it also occurs that on some posts you just have no idea what to comment on, and so you won’t comment at all.

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    1. I feel the same way! If someone even took the time to comment, that means a lot to me! And I definitely feel happy when I have a lot of comments (even though it might be exhausting to answer all of them). 😂 Yeah, there are definitely posts where I don’t know what to comment, so I just don’t.

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  38. I think everyone agrees we all like comments. At least, I do. 🙂 I generally reply to all comments on my blog, and I typically check out the commenter’s blog, too. If I find I post I want to respond to, I comment back, but I don’t force myself if I have nothing to say. I’d like to comment more on more blogs, but I’m like an internet hermit, lol. I get updates on a few blogs in my email inbox and have to kick myself to go outside and stroll through the blogosphere every so often.

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    1. That’s so true! We all love comments; who wouldn’t love people randomly popping up to make your day! 😄 Yeah, I want to start doing the same thing, especially not having to force myself to comment back! And same! There are some days where I’m on top of the blogosphere, and some days I’m just like, “Nope.” 😂

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  39. Wow, your blog has been alive for less than mine has (mine’s like 7 months), but it’s so popular! #jealous xD
    Most of this stuff you say is definitely true. It is totally sad when people don’t comment back on your blog 😦 as for responses though, I always respond, but I struggle with technical problems… my comment notifications have been broken for MONTHS and when I finally got someone to fix them for me, they still go to the spam -.- meh! Don’t you just have technical issues like that.

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    1. I honestly couldn’t tell you how it happened. It just did? 😂 I think being on WordPress made it easier!

      Oh, that sucks! This is one of the reasons why it terrifies me to start self-hosting – I’ll do it, and then I’ll end up having so many issues with it! But maybe that’s just me having crazy ideas. 😂

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      1. I am on WordPress though 🙂 it’s still run on WordPress and my follows are processed through WP, and all my comments are visible. Also, WordPress users don’t get comment notifications at all. We just see when you “like” a comment, and I could have that too, despite being self-hosted. It’s just that my theme doesn’t display it. And my comments still appear on the WordPress reader for people 🙂 basically, I don’t really lose anything by self-hosting, I have everything that you have.. Except I had more, but then it stopped working xD if that’s clear enough 😀

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      2. Oh, so you bought a domain on WordPress.com? Or are you on WordPress.org? That makes sense! I still feel like I’d be terrible at it since I know nothing about design or coding, and WordPress.com makes it easier for having most of it built in! 😂

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